A Treatise On Game

The world of the PUAs was made known to me relatively recently, but to be honest, the things I have learned (both through reading and in the field) have been no less than life-changing. The way I view approaching strangers, attraction, relationships, sex, and the nature of females has undergone a complete and fundamental change over the past year.

For those of you unaware of the concept of game, I think it is best defined as male charisma- that curious ability to pick up attractive women based off personality, possessed by some and forever elusive to others (or so we think). The modern PUA community, pioneered by Mystery (Erik Von Markovik) and a handful of other socially adroit men, has roots tracing back to the mid 1990s. It became popularized over the next decade with the release of Neil Strauss’s The Game and Mystery’s TV Show “The Pickup Artist” on VH1. The idea of game revolves around the theory that women’s behavior can be generalized and predicted in a rather concrete and even algorithmic (e.g., the Mystery Method) way.

On the surface, game can appear to be dubious debauchery, and I wouldn’t blame someone who was apprehensive of its admonitions. But it works. I’ve observed it. The results speak for themselves. There is no denying that the application of its principles can transform previously inept men (known in the community as AFCs- average frustrated chumps, or betas) into men who can actually obtain the women they desire. (These men have become PUAs, or alphas.)

There are many brash chimeras about game, which are always at the root of the skepticism. To clearly define what game IS, let me expound upon a few misconceptions regarding what game is NOT:

-Seducing bar skanks

Probably the most common allegation against game is that it is only useful for guys who want to pick up self-loathing barflies looking for a one-night stand. Not the case. While it certainly can be used for such purposes, game is not at all centered on success within this narrow milieu. It works on all girls. Now that doesn’t mean an individual’s success rate is going to be 100% (there are too many extenuating circumstances), but it does mean that an individual is going to have noticeably more success than before he knew game. And its principles are not bound to the bar; it can work at school, church, the market, the park. During the day. At night. Anytime. Anywhere.

-Advancing the belief that men are superior to women

Game does nothing of the sort; it simply acknowledges that men are different from women. What attracts a woman is not the same as what attracts a man. What a woman looks for in a mate is not the same as what a man looks for. There are biological differences between the genders, and no matter what hard-core feminists spew to the contrary, that is the truth.

-Tricking women into attraction

Some people think that “running game” on a girl is sleight-of-hand tomfoolery. With its canned openers and systematic methods for each stage, it sure can appear that way. But when all is said and done, no woman who ends up with a man did so because she fell helplessly into some web of deceit. Ultimately, it is her choice (as it is the man’s choice to approach her) to pursue whatever intimacy ensues. If she does, it is because she is attracted to him, not because she was bamboozled. And also, while canned openers and other tactics can seem cheesy, they are necessary to learn for any student learning game. Better to open your mouth and have something interesting to say than to say nothing at all (what 90% of guys end up doing anyway). And with practice, the more puerile aspects of game fade away and the man is transformed into someone who can attract women naturally. A true alpha male is in control of his surroundings; his social interactions, while structured around certain principles, are the opposite of being robotic. The difference with the people who learn it and people who scoff at it is that the former believe that a man can become an alpha; the latter almost always believe such a change is unachievable.

To be supremely concise on what game is all about, I’d select the following five things:

-Being confident.

-Having options and avoiding the stench of neediness.

-Being able to step out of your comfort zone.

-Being disinterested (not uninterested, mind you) in the outcome of any given interaction or relationship.

-Refraining from putting women on pedestals.

I believe that properly learning and applying game can improve the life of any man. Trust me, I’ve had my problems attracting girls over the years, and while I’m still far from what I want to be, I’ve already begun to see a drastic difference in my life. I’m convinced that game can save lives, in more ways than one. I know what it’s like to be subject to that abject loneliness of rejection and being put in the ever-dreaded friend zone. And I also know what it’s like to be sure of myself and confident that I can attract a woman who meets my standards. I most definitely prefer living in the latter state.

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